Thursday, January 19, 2012
Remember the saying " sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me"? If only that were true! Words can be more hurtful than anything sometimes. There is such power in the words that we speak! Take for instance if you're having the worst day and out of no where someone stops to tell you how nice you look. For at least the next instance those words have changed your day and left an impact on you. Another example is how people use words to hurt. Demeaning and degrading people are how some people choose to use their words. How we speak to people and the words we use have a long lasting effect on those we speak them to. Sometimes it does take a lot of self control and biting your tongue to not say the things your feelings, but it is so worth it when you do because often times your feelings change. The words you speak cannot be taken back. So I presented a challenge to our church youth group and here it is: I asked the teens to take a minute and think about some of things that they have said to people and some things that have been said to them. I asked them to think about how the words impacted them or made them feel, good or bad. I also told them to think about the words that they have spoken and wished they could take back. After a few minutes I told them this, for the next week before they spoke any words to take a 10 second pause and think about the effect their words were going to have.I had quiet a few teens take me up on the challenge and the results we got back were AWESOME!! I asked them how many of them had wanted to say something really mean or nasty to someone else, but they didn't say it after their pause. Quiet a few hands went up. Then I asked how many of them were glad they didn't say it and that their feelings had changed since then and I received the same response.I made the point that by not saying the things they were feeling or thinking that it saved them a lot of problems and hurt feelings. Sometimes I think adults need to set the example about the things we speak and the way or tone we say them.The rule still applies that " If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". So I challenge you, my readers, when you feel like saying something mean take a 5 or 10 second pause and think " is my saying this going to be worth the problems and hurt feelings that my words cause"?
Monday, January 2, 2012
Well it's the beginning of a new year and I am so excited to see what this year holds! There have already been some changes that have taken place just in the last two days. I started taking care of an elderly woman who is suffering from dementia.Everyday is completely different than the one before. Although she is forgetful about things she still has such joyful spirit. She is truly an inspiration to me. She has been married for 66 years and her husband would do absolutely anything for her. To watch them together and see how he treats her is something that most women would give anything for. It is a privilege to be a part of their life and it teaches me not to take some things for granted. While I was hired to be a companion and help for her, she is certainly someone that I needed in my life.It's a good feeling to get up in the morning and go to work thinking that maybe you could be making a difference in someones life.